Michael Mann's 1992 film, "The Last of The Mohicans," despite Daniel Day-Lewis's performance as Hawkeye, is deeply flawed. It makes no difference, though: I cannot watch it, especially the last 15 minutes or so, when Chingachgook stands (outrageously, for James Fenimore Cooper fans) atop a mountain in the Great Blue Ridge, his only son, Uncas, having fallen in combat... because I, too, am the last living member of a very small tribe, now left upon the planet without grandparents, parents, siblings or offspring.
The film was made in 1992, just after my mother (the next to the last of my Mohicans) succumbed to cancer.
Very much in Chingachgook's moccasins, I am the last, now, of the Boleman-Herrings.
In mid-January, for the first time in decades, I managed to visit, in the flesh, for just one precious afternoon, a first cousin on my paternal side.
Jesse, a paleontologist and now-retired university vice president, is the only living member of my rather vast Red-State clan of cousins with whom I have anything truly in common. I may share some DNA with other cousins, but Jesse and I are the only two to get past our Masters' degrees, give up any and all religion, travel the world and embrace Liberalism with a capital L.
The second son of my late father's only sister, Jesse too has now lost both parents and a brother, though he, unlike me, has two half-siblings, and can look forward, ahead, and beyond through the eyes of his son, Danny, and Danny's daughter, Victoria.
Though Jesse and I -- on those so very rare occasions when we meet -- are more or less overcome, for the duration of our time together, and all but speechless, remembering our mutual losses, we also comprise, for one another, unique reservoirs of memory. At 61 and 78, respectively, Jesse and I have been actors in the family drama, coming onstage in different scenes, but supporting the same cast of characters, and then standing, together, beneath the lights, for much of the same tragedy and comedy.
We are still standing on stage, together, I find, in Act Three. (Leonard Cohen claims that Tennessee Williams said, "Life would make a pretty good play, if it weren't for that third act.")
I believe Jesse and I would meet more often were it not just so painful to look into one another's eyes. I remember, he remembers, beautiful faces, idiosyncratic turns of phrase (just the way my father pronounced the word "jaguar," for example; or called Jesse and Ronnie "knuckleheads"), graceful, long-limbed gestures, and shared, echoing witticisms... that live on now in only two minds.
Whenever I visit Florida, where my husband's New-York-State-born parents have made their last home, I recall most vividly my father, who grew up on the then un-tamed coasts of Florida, South Georgia and South Carolina, back when "The Sunshine State" had a population of under three million.
I remember my father, the third-generation son of north-German immigrants, as he was when I was growing up, of course, between the years of 1951 and 1972; but I also "remember him" as Jesse knew him, in the years before his marriage and my birth, as well as when he was a young man (in that First Act, before either Jesse or I came onstage), through the oral history Jesse carries in his head.
My paternal grandfather, Frederick Henry Herring, was one of those hardy descendants of Germans -- Prussians, really -- who brought The Panama Canal into being, and then went on to run The Florida East Coast Railway.
While in Panama, the skilled workers -- paid in gold, as opposed to silver, Jesse tells me -- were also offered classes in photography and fine woodworking. My father's father, obviously gifted in all right-brain skills, excelled in both fields, and almost every moment of his life after those days in Panama, where he hunted wild game and, famously, at night, shot two deer through their eyes with a single bullet, was documented in beautiful black and white photographs he shot, developed and printed, himself.
I took my own first slides with my grandfather's last field camera, a 1949 Nikon brought back to "Dad" from Korea.
When I visited Jesse earlier this month, in New Smyrna Beach, he shared with me an album of early photographs of my father, and the extended family, that I had never before seen. I have had some of Dad's stills all my life, but Jesse has almost the entire family archive.
For me, sitting there on the sofa with my cousin, with Hilda's brilliant second child, leafing through those family photographs was tantamount to viewing, for the first time, a Director's Cut of my father's early life, almost to the moment I entered it, and my grandfather exited it.
Due to the vicissitudes of Jesse's own early life, and the tumult in my aunt's first marriage, both Jesse and his brother Ron, as well as their much younger half-sister, Sandra, also spent time with my father and mother, as parents... before they became my parents.
In Jesse, a son of the true, forever lost now Florida, I see so very much of my father, Jesse's "Uncle Bubba" (no one in the South can, it seems, pronounce the word "Brother" in infancy). And Jesse remembers my father as uncle, but also as I remember him, as "father."
When we drive out together now to find a place that serves up peel-and-eat shrimp and hush puppies, Jesse casually drapes just his left hand over the steering wheel, at 11 o'clock, precisely as my father did, and tears well up in my throat.
How can I bring these basic, wordless emotions into speech for you; you, too, who have lost loved ones, who know what it is to have lights go out, all of a sudden, never to be re-lit?
Or, primary colors vanish from the palette, forever, everywhere?
My father was that. A primary color. Like orange. In Jesse, I see again a flash of bright orange, something I never thought to see again.
When his granddaughter, Victoria (and children are thin, thin on the ground in this barren field of the family) displayed an early talent for the violin, Jesse thought about what to make for her.
Not what to buy for her, mind you. What to make.
Stretching back to that German engineer's fine woodworking class in Panama, Jesse called upon our ancestral skills, and set to work.
He went up to the Smithsonian Institution to study the works of Antonio Stradivari. He procured blueprints. He researched properly aged woods, and went to the Amish for a block from which to carve... his own Stradivarius. He studied glue. For a very long time, he studied glue. He approached fine violin-makers and procured specialized tools.
"Victoria started out playing a quarter-sized instrument," my cousin told me. "I figured that, by the time she was ready, I'd have completed a full-sized violin."
Two years later, in The Great Blue Ridge, where Jesse and his wife Shirley had bought a summer home, a master fiddler strung Jesse's carefully-made instrument, played it, and pronounced it a thing well-done.
My father was one of the most physically beautiful men I have ever seen in my long life. He was a graceful athlete, a masterful teacher, a child-therapist brimming over with love and compassion, a husband and father who took Ashley Montagu's teachings about "touch" to heart... and a major goofball. His face, in repose, was too beautiful to be true, but he was so seldom in repose: His wide smile and wild laugh resonate still in Jesse's and my memory.
I have all around me here the gorgeous things he carved from wood; the photographs he took of Greece in the early 1960s, when he went to Athens as a Fulbright Scholar; the many tangible gifts he left my mother and me.
And, when I hug my first cousin Jesse good-bye, for one fleeting moment, I also have around me, once more, my father's arms... and the bright color orange.
Note: In the 1970s, when my cousin Jesse's PhD dissertation in paleontology was making its way to wider publication, he discovered, named and published two unique species of fauna in Florida: one, a flying squirrel; the other, a ground sloth. Both had been extinct for millions of years: there are no lasts yet living of their Mohicans.
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